House Rules

High protocol etiquette for the un-owned submissive/slave:

• Always be polite! Politeness is a sign of respect.

• Always ask for honorifics when initialising a conversation with a Domme. There are plethora of honorifics used - here are a few examples:

  • Goddess

  • Lady

  • Ma’am

  • Mistress

  • Ms

  • Princess/Prince

  • Vampiress

• Use formal speech. This will help alleviate any nervousness you are feeling and decrease the chances of potential mistakes. For example:

  • “May I ask how you are this evening, Mistress?”

  • “It has been a pleasure to speak with you this evening. Thank you for your time.”

• Use formal body language. You will find being formal in your actions and speech is  more likely to be welcomingly accepted. In general, manners will be viewed upon with great approval and will demonstrate your enthusiasm to serve meaningfully and efficiently. For example:

  • Hold doors open for Dommes/Mistresses.

  • Allow Dommes/Mistresses to pass before you.

  • If a Domme/Mistress requires a seat, help her find one.

  • Help a Mistress remove or put on her coat.

  • Give a slight bow at the end of a conversation with a Mistress.

• Remember, Club Femdom is not a guaranteed play event. To guarantee play at the event we suggest visiting with a professional Domme.
   

Initiating a conversation with a Domme:

• Never interrupt a conversation. It is not polite, especially for a slave to do so when a Domme is speaking with another Domme.

• Show respect by making sure that you don’t encroach on a Domme’s personal space – allow three footsteps of distance between you and the Domme.

• Wait patiently until you are spoken to with your eyes cast down and hands behind your back.

• Do not appear impatient or seek attention by moving about and causing a distraction.

• If the Domme is seated then you should kneel, if able to do so.

• If you are kneeling, still keep the respected distance and have the palms of your hands facing upwards resting on your knees, eyes remaining downcast.

• Only when the Domme acknowledges your presence, should you speak.

• A good example of a first introduction would be “With respect, may I speak with you?” and then ask how they would like to be addressed/which honorifics to they prefer.

 

General high protocol guidance for Dommes submissives/slaves:

• Entering into the high protocol scene of Club Femdom for the first time can be an intimidating experience. We have an exceptional team of hosts and House Dommes that will assist and guide you if you should wish.

• Seating is strictly only for Dommes. Submissives and slaves are to sit or kneel on the floor; we do provide kneeling mats. These can be found throughout the venue. If you have a medical condition that prevents you from sitting/kneeling then please speak with a House Domme and they will assist you.

• Dungeon furniture is for active play only and not for sitting on.

• For submissives/slaves, Dommes are not mind readers so if you would like to be played with, please respectfully ask a Domme. If you are not having much success then speak to a House Domme who can guide you in the right direction.

• Submissives/slaves who pester Dommes for play will not be tolerated and will be asked to leave.

• Consenting adult submissives/slaves should be aware of their own limitations and boundaries, and must make these clear before engaging in any form of active play.

• We have a 'Sub Sorting Hat' at Club Femdom, which can help you negotiate playtime with a Domme. The Sub Sorting Hat is for Dommes and subs. For Dommes to enter, they must give their name to the House Domme overseeing the Sub Sorting Hat, who will always be found on the balcony. For submissives/slaves to enter, they must complete a short form stating three activities along with their limits, and will be given a number in return. Those who do not state any limits will be refused entry to the Sub Sorting Hat..

• There is strictly no strictly no sexual activity or nudity at this event.

• The house safe word is RED.

• For submissives/slaves if you are ordered to do something by someone you do not know, makes you feel uncomfortable or you feel it is wrong, you have the right to politely refuse. Remember to remain formally polite - “With respect Ma’am/Ms I am not familiar with who you are and therefore I must refuse your request." If you are demanded by the same person the second time, again remain polite - “With respect Ma’am/Ms I have already stated that I cannot serve you, please do not ask again.” If the demand continues for a third time, walk away without saying anything and seek the assistance from a House Domme.

• For submissives/slaves that are owned and collared, they will have their own instructions from their owner. Undoubtedly they’ll remain secured with a collar and leash throughout the evening, showcasing their impeccable training to their owner. However, even in this scenario do not hesitate to seek assistance from House Dommes if any concerns arise.